Chapter 2: Beyond the Sexual Urge
“In [the relationship of utility], the moment they cease to match and to be of advantage to each other, nothing at all is left of the harmony. love will be no more, n either of the persons or between them.” – from “Love and Responsibility” (39), John Paul II
From Dr. Sri: The sexual urge manifests itself in the tendency for human persons to seek the opposite sex…it orients a man toward the physical and psychological characteristics of a woman–her body, her femininity–which are the very attributes that are most complementary to the man. And the woman, in turn, is oriented toward the physical and psychological attributes of a man–his body, his masculinity–and the properties that naturally complement the woman. (p. 16)
The sexual urge draws us to the physical and psychological attributes of a person of the opposite sex. But ultimately, it is meant to orient us toward another person who possesses those attributes–not just the attributes themselves. Manifestations of the sexual urge thus present us with a choice between loving the person, and using them for their attributes.